T'inking it t'rough

Overheard:

"You t'ink you are somebody; I t'ink I am somebody; ever'body t'ink they are somebody!"

Arguments

Before you get into an argument that might get out of hand, check out this article for some counsel. Here's the link:

Arguments

There's a bit of confusion in the text over the words 'defuse' and 'diffuse", and the spelling may be a bit haphazard, but the advice is generally sound.

This Morning's Composition

Service Station

Took my car in for the regular 3000 mile service today.

My car isn't the one on the left, nor is it the one on the right. It's inside the building, behind the door with the red panels, so you can't see it.

It was very windy today, though the main storm has already gone through and is probably in the Sierras by now, dumping the longed-for snow up there for the skiers.

We had several brief power outages today because of the wind, which must have caused some damage to the power lines. Having to reset all those digital clocks (bedside tables, desk, ovens, etc.) can be a pain depending on their age. For the older ones, if you do it too swiftly and happen to zip past the correct time, you have to cycle through another twenty-four hours. The newer ones have up-down or left-right buttons to make life easier.

Christmas

Last night we all went to Midnight Mass together — my wife, our son, and our two granddaughters.

While I admit to not being a regular churchgoer for most of the year, I have not missed a Midnight Mass for as long as I can remember. It is the one time in the year when I am especially moved by those who have strong religious convictions.

It's like when I watch a documentary about Lourdes, or Medjugorje, or Fatima on the travel channel. The candles, the voices raised in solemn song, the look on the faces of the faithful: some may regard these as overused or superficial signposts of religious faith, but they can have a certain effect upon one's Weltanschauung, despite the secular humanism that someone like me espouses.

Christmas is a time for family, and as I write this, I am awaiting the arrival at our house of some family members and friends. My wife is preparing a prime rib roast, and I have made a stew of bacalhau, or salt cod. There will be Christmas cake and Christmas pudding, baked sweet potatoes with marshmallows, a salad, and a variety of cakes and sweets.

I am grateful for what we have, especially for our health and wellbeing and the love of family and friends.

Peace on earth — we hope and pray for that.

The Blue of the Sky

The old bromide of a picture being worth a thousand words is correct. I plan in the future to post more pictures in the intervals when words won't easily come.

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It's been quite cold around these parts, but the sky is so blue it takes one's breath away. From my front door I can see clear across the bay a good ten leagues east to the hills on the other side.

Windows of The City

Warm Greetings and City Views

Warmest greetings for the holidays, and to my friends and relatives my special thanks for the kind words they offered about recent postings to this blog.

In San Francisco yesterday it was lovely, a far cry from the foggy grisaille of December 14. click here My wife had a meeting to attend, and I was free to rediscover a part the city on foot.

A hike up Telegraph Hill gave me more than my daily quota of physical exercise. Some of the photos I took are reproduced below. (Click on the images to enlarge.)

Later we went with friends for dinner at a busy Chinese restaurant on Balboa Street, where the noise level certainly deserved the three bells in our local restaurant guide's rating system. But the food in our judgment would easily have earned three crysanthemums in the guide Michelin (were the editors of that much-respected European guide ever to sample the fare).

Do sleeping dogs lie?

Trolley cables

Family gathering in a park

Tiburon seen from Pacific Heights

More Images of Summer 2006

Dalmatian Coast

Alleyway in Dubrovnik

Olympia 1

Olympia 2

Olympia 3

2006 Summer Vacation

Corfu Windows

Dubrovnik Windows

Tiber & Dome

Valletta - Summer 2006

Santorini - Summer 2006

Ephesus - Summer 2006

Fog City

A New Clock

Here's a link to a different kind of clock.

http://home.tiscali.nl/annejan/swf/timeline.swf

Persimmons

If I were to be asked what my favorite fruit is, I'd probably have to say, the persimmon. For me there has always been something vaguely mysterious about the persimmon.

There are of course the different varieties of the fruit. The two main kinds we find in our markets are known by their Japanese names: fuyu (the firm-fleshed non-astringent variety, see photo), and hachiya (the kind with the soft meat that you eat with a spoon, like custard). I happen to like both kinds.

The shelf life of the fuyu may be longer than that of the hachiya. With the hachiya, it can be difficult to tell when it is exactly ready for eating. And herein lies the mystery. A hachiya persimmon may look from its color and feel as though it is already ripe, but when you cut it open, sink a spoon into it, and transfer the soft flesh to your mouth, you could be in for a surprise, and not a pleasant one at that.

If the hachiya isn't perfectly ripe to a jelly-like softness, it will make the inside of your mouth feel as though all your taste buds had been suddenly cauterized. It is a most unsettling sensation. But when it is fully ripe, the flesh of the hachiya can be heavenly.

The fuyu, on the other hand, can be eaten even when it has an apple-like firmness, though it is usually more delicious when you let it ripen and soften a bit.

Our Asian markets around this time of year have an abundance of persimmons, usually of the fuyu variety. The hachiya is not as common, and is more expensive, costing as much per piece as a whole pound of the fuyu.

Persimmons are good also in baked goods.

Ants

Never underestimate the intelligence of ants.

In the summer, when there is abundant food to be found in the wild, ants may be disinclined to invade our homes. Picnics are another matter. I mean, if we are going to spread food out in the open within marching distance of a nest of ants, we have only ourselves to blame.

It is a source of amazement to me that, in the wintertime, ants from the outside are able to make a bee-line (please excuse the metaphor) for sweet things inside the house.

Like today, for instance.

I took down from the top shelf of the kitchen cupboard a tin can (actually a former cookie container) in which I keep a stash of chocolates. Mostly the chocolates are in the form of bars, acquired at various times, but there are also the individual foil-wrapped chocolates, including some that the cabin steward on our last cruise had neatly placed on our pillows each night.

It has been said by those who study such things that a chocolate a day, especially a dark chocolate, is good for you. (Or maybe, sometimes, two.) I subscribe enthusiastically to that view. My daily chocolate is something I look forward to with keen anticipation.

Well, today, the ants invaded my tin can. They were not yet there in force, thank heaven. The ones that made it in were probably the scouts, the outriders whose job it is in the tightly-organized bureaucracy of anthood to find new sources of food, especially the high-energy sugary stuff. They had found my stash. How did they know it was there? And how did they get past all the obstacles to reach the inside of the can, which, though it was not airtight, had scant space even for an ant to penetrate?

The triangular cardboard box of the bar of Toblerone had been opened (probably by myself) and the foil had been carelessly, and hastily, folded back. There they were. A score or more of the little creatures, madly scurrying around upon being discovered. Some even ran up my arm.

These scout ants move faster than the worker ants who will follow later. Had I not chanced upon the invasion, I am convinced that the entire stash of chocolates would have been covered by a teeming horde of worker ants by the afternoon, each one of them carting off a tiny piece of chocolate to take back to the old queen in the hive.

My chocolate stash is now kept in ziploc plastic bags inside a plastic jar with a screw-on lid. I think the chocolates will be safe there. I have a feeling that the ants, intelligent though they are, have not yet been able to figure out a way to penetrate plastic. At least, I hope they have not. But, with evolution, who knows what the future holds.

The Unbidden Tune

'Sfunny how some days I wake up in the morning with a tune running through my head, a tune from a popular song of 'our time', the Fifties (Doris Day? Patti Page?), a catchy tune repeated over and over without surcease. If I try consciously to get the tune to stop, it may do so for a spell. And then suddenly it returns unbidden, sticking in my consciousness like a nettle. (Speaking of which reminds me now of how the guy invented the loop-and-hook configuration of the Velcro fastener from wondering how nettles would stick to his trouser leg.)

So here's today's tune. It happens to be The Birthday Song. It happens to be "Happy Birthday" sung in Portuguese. I recall that a large group of us were on a visit to Portugal in 1997 (after the first major surgery of my life), and we were all having fun in a restaurant in the town of Mealhada, which is famed for its roast suckling pig. We were singing all kinds of songs, from national anthems to Auld Lang Syne, and then we discovered it was someone's birthday, and so we sang:

Parabéns a você
Nesta data querida
Muitas felicidades
Muitos anos de vida!

Tenha tudo do bom
Do que a vida contém
Tenha muita saúde
E amigos também

Hoje é dia de festa
Cantam as nossas almas
Para o menino(a) "aniversariante"
Uma salva de palmas!

Some Thoughts

Whiteflies executing an intricate dance in the sunlight of a winter's afternoon.

A Chinese family of seven gathered around a circular table in a small suburban restaurant, saying grace before their meal.

Blue, green, and grey recycling boxes strewn across neighborhood driveways after the bi-weekly collection truck has come through.

A clear shot of the Bay all the way across to the eastern shore; and beyond, the bluish cone of Mount Diablo.

A cup of strong Earl Grey tea on this cold afternoon.

Balancing a checkbook on the first try.

The Christmas tree already set up in the living room, alongside the boxes of ornaments and lights waiting to adorn it.

Polite drivers at a four-way-stop intersection, beckoning to one another to proceed.

News of a new baby in the Canadian branch of the family.

A comfortable chair, a good book, and remembering where I put my reading glasses.

The City Below

Holidays

And so we end our Thanksgiving holiday weekend. Our granddaughter was home from college to spend some time with us, and her sister and dad. We had some great meals, and then the womenfolk did some holiday shopping to take advantage of the bargains. The weather was fine till today, when the first rain finally arrived.

Like most men, I do not much enjoy shopping. If I needed to buy something, I'd go to the store that sold it, buy it, and come right home. The thought of wandering from store to store looking at shoes, or apparel, or household items is enough to tax my equilibrium to the fullest. Nowadays, of course, we can buy almost anything online. But the women of my acquaintance seem not to like that alternative. They like to feel the cloth, try on the shoe, and check the shade or color of this fabric against that accessory. They are able to spend many hours doing stuff like this. They enjoy shopping, especially at this time of year, when there are bargains galore. Why, just in today's (Sunday's) newspaper the sales ads outweigh the news pages and other sections by a significant margin. What joy it must be for our shoppers to negotiate all those department store aisles in search of bargains!

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Many homes in our neighborhood are already decorated with lights for the holidays. Some are really very elaborate. Not all are in the best of taste. Well, chacun a son goût. What else can one say?

Labels

As we approach the end of another year, I find once again that I have more than enough free self-stick return address labels than I can possibly use in two lifetimes (assuming that I remain at my current address).

These labels come from charities and other donation seekers who seem to multiply with time.

Yes, I know they DO send one another the address lists of donors. Yes, I know they are run like businesses with an eye to the bottom line (we hope). Yes, they do make you feel guilty if you use the labels without sending in a contribution.

It's a good idea to check out the charity or donation seeker before sending money. Heaven knows we would not want our hard-earned dollars ending up in the wrong hands.

http://www.charitywatch.org/toprated.html

Pins

I'm wearing a new shirt for Thanksgiving. It has a checked pattern, button down collar, and, for a storebought shirt, it fits quite well. The label at the back of the neck has a well-known brand on it. But, as with most apparel these days (at least the kind that I'm likely to buy off the rack), it was made overseas. In this case, Cambodia. The label tells me this in English, and also in Spanish ("hecho en Camboya"), the latter, we may suppose, for the benefit of the many people in this country for whom the Spanish language is the preferred medium of communication.

One could go on at length about the marketing of apparel with well-known American brand names, about the transfer of manufacturing to countries with cheaper labor costs, about perceived corporate greed for higher profits and an improved bottom line. But one chooses not to enter that arena.

Let us instead examine the shirt itself. Quality of the material is very good. The sewing of the pockets and the collar and the buttonholes and the sleeves happens to be fair. There are some hanging threads here and there, which must be carefully trimmed away with my wife's nail scissors. Sometimes the buttons are not sewn as securely as one might have expected, but that failing is easily remedied with thread and needle.

The shirt as it comes is neatly folded. A cardboard insert keeps the whole thing stiff and easy to handle. The problem though is that there are a number of pins that hold the fabric so that it retains its tidy rectangular shape against the cardboard. Some pins pierce the fabric as well as the cardboard, others may pin a sleeve to a breast pocket, and still others are hidden in such a way that an unsuspecting person could easily prick a finger in trying to find out how they are attached. Care has to be exercised to avoid such occurrences.

Now, something about those pins. In a quality shirt, the pins are likely to have large round heads, so that they can easily be distinguished by clumsy male fingers from the sharp, pointed end. Cheaper shirts may have pins with old-style tiny heads. These are more dangerous.

On an average man's shirt, there may be as many as ten pins. In the past I have simply discarded the pins, including the large roundheaded ones, by dropping them in the wastebasket. Then one day my wife told me that she could use those pins, so now I collect them every time I open up a new shirt. I place them in an empty film canister (speaking of which, these are fast becoming a rarity with the demise of film as a photographic medium), and when enough of them are collected, the pins end up in the embroidered pin cushion (made in the shape of a colorful turtle) in her sewing box.

Here I will stop and wish everyone a very happy Thanksgiving, as I put on my new shirt.

Election

This past weekend saw the election of my wife as the first woman president of our social club, which has nearly a thousand members. At first I had misgivings about her candidacy for the office, though I know full well that she is eminently qualified to undertake the responsibilties attached thereto. My concern had more to do with the extra demands in time and energy that will surely be required of her. She sought my approval and support before she accepted the job, and I, seeing that she was determined to give it her best shot in her inimitable fashion, offered both with a thumbs-up signal at a critical moment in the election process.

She assumes office on the first of the year, and is clearly pleased at the outpouring of warm encouragement from a significant portion of the association's membership.

Club politics can so often be a test of one's equanimity. Factions and cliques are common obstacles that have to be dealt with and opposing viewpoints must be given proper exposure with the grace and savoir faire of a skilled diplomat.

There is no question in my mind that the new president will fill the bill very nicely.

Fall in San Francisco

Conversation

The waiting room is small by the standards of an office with seven doctors' names on the door. There are about thirty steel chairs with fabric seats and backs, in color either black or blue, along with three plain black cube-shaped tables. Current issues of magazines are laid out in haphazard fashion on the tables. Some magazines occupy the chair seats where their readers have hastily left them upon being summoned into their examination rooms. The magazines to which the doctors subscribe may reveal as much about them as about their patients. There are the regulars: Time, Fortune, Business Week, US News and World Report, Sunset, Health, Sports Illustrated, Golf, which one tends to find in most doctors' waiting rooms. There are the ones that appeal to a younger readership: Wired, People, Entertainment Weekly, In Touch ("Who's Britney dating?'). Then there are the magazines aimed at a more affluent clientele: Vanity Fair, Esquire, Southern Accents, Cottage Living, Yachting. Powerboating.

The room is crowded when I first get there. I understand that Mondays are like that. Generally the patients are quietly reading, awaiting their summons. It's cold today, and most of them are warmly clothed.

Two women behind me are engaged in an animated, if one-sided, conversation. The subject is an accident involving a drunken teenager who had crashed into the parked car of a friend of one of the women. No one was hurt, but the car was totaled, and the young man was subsequently arrested. He had no insurance. What is odd about this conversation is that the woman telling it gets no chance to finish any sentence before her (supposedly) attentive listener cuts in with a request for elaboration, an unrelated question, a non sequitur, an inane aside, or some other meaningless interruption. Both women speak in loud tones, as if they were not sitting in a small quiet room, but outdoors on a park bench in the midst of traffic.

At first I do not risk a look in the direction of the conversing women. We are sitting back to back. But through the ruse of looking for another magazine, I get up and glance at them. The one telling about the accident is a large woman in her fifties, with black hair that is wild and frizzled and extends out to either side of her broad face like a woman in the Fusco Brothers comic strip. Her companion is perhaps a couple of decades older, stooped, with stringy blond hair and a beak of a nose. She is the Constant Interrupter.

The two do not appear to be related, except perhaps that the dark-haired one may have brought the older woman for her appointment at this office. By this time the conversation has transmogrified to a discussion about a television soap opera, and the new satellite TV service that the blond woman has just installed at her place, and about how the remote controls that used to work on her TV now no longer work. This is the Constant Interrupter speaking in a complaining tone, and it is the dark-haired woman's turn to interrupt her with 'Did you try doing this or that?' and 'Was it the black remote or the one with the yellow buttons?'

Finally the nurse calls out a name, the blond woman cackles once, rises, is followed by her companion through the door held open for them, and a deathly stillness descends again upon the waiting room.

Getting There

Our fall days here have been just glorious. I'm sure they are in other places as well. But the Bay Area is hard to beat. (So much for Chamber of Commerce promotion.)

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The ol' back is still not one-hundred-percent, but I'll live.

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Started reading 'Mysteries of the Middle Ages' by Thomas Cahill, subtitled 'The Rise of Feminism, Science, and Art from the Cults of Catholic Europe"'. An absolutely fascinating book. Scholarly yet light in tone, an eye-opener upon a period in history that most of us don't often read about.. The 4-color illustrations and pithy footnotes are delightful. Some years ago I read Cahill's `'Desire of the Everlasting Hills', a study of Jesus in a historical context that was another page-turner.

By the way, did I mention Lawrence Wright's 'The Looming Tower — Al-Qaeda and the Path of 9/11'? Another must-read.

Pain in the Neck

Thanks to all who have looked in from time to time, and apologies for having left my blog unattended for a while. Truth is that I've been physically out of commission (and condition) the past couple of weeks, beginning with the virus I mentioned earlier. Now with antibiotics, the initial problem seems to have been taken care of. I say "seems" because I've yet to check in with the ENT guy following the ten-day course of medication he prescribed. I see him Monday.

How does one describe pain? Not easy, is it? Sometimes I think that the worst kind of pain is the kind that takes over your nervous system, which no positional adjustment can alleviate. Low back pain, the proverbial 'pain in the neck', joint pain, muscle pain. I'm not talking just average, plain vanilla, once-in-a-while pain. I'm talking serious, sharp, piercing, constant, can't-hold-your-head-up-because-your-head-feels-like-a-ripe-watermelon-about-to-be-separated-from-the
thin-vine-that-is-your-neck kind of pain.

So, what did I do? I visited this acupuncturist. Young guy from China, has a small store-front office on a shopping street not to far from where I live. Had seen him before for back pain. Had gotten some relief. Getting in and out of the car took some careful maneuvering. Two sessions with him. Four needles on the back of each hand, another couple on the instep of each foot. Twenty minutes lie-down. Needed help to get on and off the exam table.

Relief was brief. Pain returned not long after I got home. At the second session he tried to stretch and twist my neck. Mistake. I ain't going back to him no more. Or at least I don't think I will.

Finally I called my ENT guy to see if I could resume a medication that had previously been prescribed for pain relief. Thing called gabapentin, used for control of seizures and nerve pain. It's working so far.

This is the longest session I've spent at this keyboard in over a week. Better not overdo it.

Will try and check in later.

Virus

Inevitably it had to happen, I suppose. It wasn't the flu, although the season has already arrived. It was something else. It started with a sore throat and then mutated into something rather more alarming. Had difficulty swallowing, and overnight the side of my throat grew into a large, fleshy lump which was unsightly, to say the least. Threw the perfect symmetry of my countenance into a lopsided caricature of a double chin that seemed to be in the wrong place. Did I say it was alarming? Yes, all right, it was.

My E.N.T. doctor took a look and prescribed a course of antibiotics. Two days later, the thing has subsided a bit, and no longer looks quite so horrible. The doc did provide a modicum of assurance that he thought my deepest fears were unfounded, but he also said that he'll take another look when I finish taking the pills. We hear nowadays about people who get a virus, and in a very short time, it's curtains. Without the doctors even knowing what sort of virus it may have been. That's the world we live in nowadays. A world of nefarious and dangerous things sharing the air we breathe.

So this is my reason for not posting to this blog. You'd think that with all this sitting around at home, I'd think of something to post other than the foregoing. But so far I have not.

Stay tuned, though, won't you?

Weekend Wedding

It has been another busy week. This past weekend saw the wedding of my wife's niece at a scenic and celebrated location in The City. The weather was perfect (again), and the ceremony, conducted by the bride's cousin, proceeded flawlessly. At the reception we were introduced to relatives and friends from both sides. Some of the people had come from as far away as England, Canada, New York, and Washington State. The bride looked radiant. The groom was his usual amiable self. The newlyweds had planned every last detail of the ceremony and reception, but they had some help from the bride's sister.

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In the days following, we entertained several of the out-of-town visitors, and in turn we were entertained by other family members who live in the vicinity. Weddings are of course wonderful venues to meet new friends and young people. They also provide many opportunities to reminisce about old times with relatives of our own vintage. Conversations that carry on far into the night are to be anticipated as well, and we certainly had more than our share of those.

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At least for a while, I have had to leave unattended the more prosaic duties of everyday life, such as keeping up with my correspondence, and paying bills. Well, tomorrow I resume the paperwork. With determination, if not with gusto.

Visitors

The past two weeks have been especially busy, what with houseguests and visitors from overseas, more than the usual number of dinner parties and restaurant meals, and much shuttling back and forth between our house and the recently acquired pied-à-terre across the Bay. We must have put many hundreds of miles on the odometer in a week or so. Good thing gas prices have come down a bit.

The weather has been fine, except for an overcast sky today. Our guests left this morning. This is the first opportunity to add to my blog since they arrived.

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I'm reading Lawrence Wright's new book "The Looming Tower — Al-Qaeda and the Path of 9/11". It's well researched and the author's writing style makes for easy reading. I recommend it highly to anyone wanting a clear yet concise overview of the events that have led to the current confrontation between radical Islam and the West.

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There's to be a wedding this weekend. My wife's niece is getting married, and we are looking forward to a pleasant reunion with many members of her family, some of whom have come from the East Coast for the occasion.

First Rains

Friends from distant lands are visiting the area for another long-anticipated reunion, and many ancillary social functions have kept me from posting to this blog in recent days. Besides which, our recent acquisition of a pied-à-terre in another corner of the Bay Area has required a substantial investment in time and automobile mileage. Just shopping for furniture and household necessities (a process that in the best of times I try to avoid as much as I can) has added a layer of obligation to my already full schedule.

Last night we were at a dinner party where the bonhomie and fondly shared recollections of childhood friends made for a very pleasant gathering, and lasted until late.

The weather has turned cold, and during our drive home the first heavy rains accompanied us.

Dust mites

This posting is for those whose interests are in the preservation of our natural environment. There are many species of fauna whose survival and continued existence is pretty much guaranteed.

One of these should be of particular concern to those of us who spend most of our time indoors. It cannot be seen with the naked eye, but it is there in abundance, and no amount of care and attention will ever get rid of it completely.

It is the dust mite (Dermatophagoides farinae), a tiny parasite related to the spider family, each no bigger than the period at the end of this sentence. It feeds on dander, which is a fancy name for dust particles formed from the dead skin of humans and animals. Yuck!


Below is a magnified image of a dust mite. Click on the image to enlarge.

Shelf Life

Some people are methodical.  They will check out everything in the pantry or the refrigerator at recurring intervals to determine the expiration dates on packaged food items, and then proceed to discard those that are past due.  This practice would no doubt be religiously followed in well-organized households.

However, many people, I am inclined to think, are like me.  They simply don't inventory their food stocks on a regular basis, and long-expired items may be left in the secret recesses of the kitchen cupboard or the fridge way past their imprinted expiration dates.  Now, of course we may, I think with some assurance, regard a jar of marmelade with a 'best before' date of September 2005 as still edible, and possibly even palatable, in September 2006.  Well and good.  But not all foods are created equal.

For breakfast this morning, I discovered that we were out of oatmeal.  In the back of the pantry shelf was a box of crispy rice flakes.  Without a second thought, I poured some into a bowl, added low-fat milk, and the first spoonful told me that all was not well with the flakes.  So then I took a look at the box top, and there I found the printed date of November 2005.  Ten months past the due date, those crispy rice flakes showed a distinct lack of freshness, a hint of over-the-hill-ness in texture as well as taste. So there is something to be said for taking note of the expiration date on the package.

Tomorrow I will go through the contents of our pantry and throw out the passé items within.  And the day after it will be the refrigerator's turn.

I wonder when it was that I made that left-over egg salad in the small Pyrex dish in the back of the bottom shelf? And why is it that color?

Trust

The wrapper on the roll of bathroom tissue tells us that it holds 425 sheets, double-ply. All well and good, but has anyone ever checked? How can anyone know unless each sheet has been counted?

In a box of breakfast cereal, we learn that the contents are sold by weight, not by volume, and that the contents may have settled during shipment. Indeed. When we open the box, we find that the plastic bag inside appears no more than three-quarters full. Is that all due to the settling? Or could holding back a scoopful of corn flakes per box improve the manufacturer's bottom line?

Who can we trust these days?

Good Intentions

Got a new cell phone recently, a tiny thing no bigger than a business card holder. Problem I have with cell phones is that I misplace them, which is what happened to the last one, and the one before. Now, if they came with a an expandable keychain attached, that would solve the problem.

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Been neglecting my daily walk, having been too 'busy' as noted in a previous post.

It's the same old story. You start the day with good intentions, but your attention is captured by some other chore that is easily done on the fly, like taking out the old newspapers and magazines for recycling, or unloading the dishwasher, or turning off a light that has been on downstairs since last night, and you see that the light actually is coming from your computer monitor, so you sit down at the desk to check your email, most of which are likely to be jokes that your friends have been circulating, some of them being duplicates because they come from people who send them out to undisclosed recipients, and so the joke is recycled from one friend to another and may in fact have originated with you, as you may discover to your annoyance, and find that you are as much a culprit in this merry-go-round as any of your unwitting correspondents, even though you may try as much as possible to check (if the email contains a warning about some disastrous event or a shocking exposé or a religious message or a free gift, and admonishes you please to send it at once to all your friends, because if you do not do it within a specified period of time, a calamity may befall you, or you will miss out on some terrific deal or blessing or piece of luck, or else some poor afflicted child may perish as a result of your lack of compassion from not following the instructions) against a website that purports to unmask all kinds of hoaxes and so-called urban legends, to see whether the email contents are true or false, and all this with the nagging ever-present thought that a computer virus or worm may have insinuated itself into the hitherto pristine machine before which you sit in the innocent expectation that among all this morass of jokes and pop-up advertisements you may find some mail that is actually worth reading.

And an hour or two later, you have completely forgotten what you started out to do.

Friday

On a busy Friday morning, the waiting room in the hospital's lab services department is standing-room-only for the patients (who richly deserve their name). You need to pull a number from a red machine, then wait for the number to be called, at which time you approach a female clerk at one of several windows to present your paperwork. The sign on the wall says: To maintain patients' privacy, please remain seated until your number is called. The clerk confirms some requisite information about you, particularly about your insurance coverage, and then orders you to sit until your name is called.

Having your blood sample drawn for a test is no big deal, but when there's a lot of people waiting and milling around, some confusion will occur. A man thinks his name is called, either because the technician calling out his name has an accent or can't pronounce the name clearly, and he gets up, only to discover that a second man—the right party—has also risen to his feet after the technician tried pronouncing again, and got it almost correct the second time.

A Chinese woman of advanced years, frumpily dressed and holding a walking stick, converses in strident tones with a younger man, seemingly not a relative, sitting beside her with his attention fixed on the television near the ceiling. The woman wears an incongruous red lipstick, quite out of sync with her age and her attire.

The population in the waiting room is approximately half white and half minorities, and perhaps half of both groups are native-born and half foreign-born. Which you may reasonably guess are the approximate ratios of the population of the Great State of California, whose elected Governor is an immigrant of Austrian birth and accent.

Busy, busy

Been busy, hence the lack of postings on this blog. The busyness has nothing to do with productive activity. In truth, it has very little to show for itself. All this running around is generally referred to as spinning one's wheels. Running in place, as it were.

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Meetings and appointments, doctors, financial advisers, contractors, shopping for carpets and furniture. An hour here, two hours there, not counting travel time. Now a stop for lunch and, while trying to get into the carpool lane in rush hour traffic, a quick listen to news on the radio about some secondrate South American noodlehead insulting our President at the wastefully expensive circus called the UN. And how about those New York parking tickets that go unpaid by third world diplomats whose jet set lifestyle is financed by our taxpayers' dollars?

My rant for today.

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We get on in years, and health continues to be either a remarkable gift or a thing of concern, whether our own, or our friends' and relatives'. Those little aches and sniffles and coughs, they may not seem to be something to worry over, but you never can tell. Heaven forbid that they should signal something dire. At our time of life, chances should not be something we take. Medications, yes. Chances, no.

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You can probably tell that my mood on this lovely fall day borders on the gloomy.

d'accord

The essay "In the Waiting Room" by David Sedaris in the September 18, 2006 issue of the New Yorker is an absolute gas.

First Anniversary

I have been blogging for just over a year. September 12 was the first anniversary of this blog.

I'm a bit surprised that I've managed to keep it going that long. Some days ideas can arrive easily. But there are also dry spells when nothing comes to mind. I try to get at least a couple of postings in each week, when I'm home.

Just trying not to repeat myself is a job in itself.

Operation

The background music is familiar: a popular song from the Fifties, sung by a then-famous female vocalist. The music is soft, and you can just about make out the words. The softness of the music is appropriate to the general ambience of the waiting room, where some ten or twelve people are either standing or sitting.

Some are new arrivals who have already announced their presence to the receptionist, a woman in her sixties who wears the pink jacket of a hospital volunteer. Once they have done this, they are told to take a seat.

Their information is passed along to a female clerk, younger, slimmer, and very efficient-appearing, in a form-fitting shirt and slacks, who is working at a computer terminal in a nook at one end of the waiting room. Every few minutes the clerk will emerge from her nook, a folder in her hand, and she will call out the name of one of the waiting patients.

It is interesting that she calls out only the first name to begin with. On answering the summons, the named patient is directed to accompany the clerk through a door into another room, where a nurse, in blue scrubs, takes the folder, greets the patient, and the two disappear as the door swings shut behind them.

If the patient does not answer when a name is first called out, the clerk will try again with the first name, adding a question mark, as she glances around the room. "Edith?" And only after there is no response, will she add a last name to the first. "Edith Bigler?" "Oswaldo?" " Oswaldo Morales?" And so on. Never "Miz Bigler" or "Mr Morales".

My guess is that fifty percent of the patients may be hard of hearing. Some have walkers or canes, and some are attended by family members or other caregivers. Most are there waiting to be admitted for minor surgery — cataracts, hands, feet, ingrown nails, that kind of thing.

The magazines set out in the waiting room are old, some over a year old. Some have pages torn out of them.

Once inside the adjoining pre-op room, you are greeted by a pleasant-mannered nurse who sits you down on a reclinable armchair. The nurse, one of the six in attendance this day, asks a number of questions about past surgeries, allergies, medications taken, and other details.

The music in here is as soothing as what had greeted us in the waiting room — in fact the music in both rooms appears to emanate from the same central source. One may wonder whether in the actual operating theater the same music may be heard.

The nursing station in the center of the room has two computer screens, two telephones, a two potted plants. The nurses come and go, exchanging remarks with one another, and occasionally with the patients waiting in one of the several booths. Some of the patients are lying on gurneys while they recover from their operations.

A janitor comes in and empties the plastic-lined bins by the counter. A large bunch of keys dangles from his belt, into which a pair of green rubber gloves has been stuck. He is about forty-five, lean, of medium height, walks with a slight stoop, and a pot belly sticks out over a large belt buckle. It is quite possible that his paycheck, including overtime, exceeds that of the nurses.

A doctor walks by, on his way in or out of the operating room. He wears blue scrubs, and on his head a sort of shower cap of elasticized plastic. His glasses are halfway down his nose, and a cloth face mask dangles on his chest. He moves right, and then left, and then right again, as though unsure where he is headed.

All the medical staff wear tennis shoes with thick soles. Sometimes their shoes make little squeaks on the vinyl floor.

One of the nurses is particularly attractive, though no longer young. She moves with a fluid grace through the room, as though on ice skates. It is a pleasure to watch her go about her business.

9/11

Last night my wife and I viewed the first part of the docu-drama on ABC titled "The Path to 9/11", and tonight we will view the second and final part. We thought it was well done, with fast-paced editing, authentic characterizations and settings, and enough insight into the actions of the principals involved to provide an understanding of what led to that great tragedy on September 11, 2001.

We were mesmerized by the program, in much the same way as we might have been by any good adventure film set in a familiar locale with recognizable actors. We knew that it was based on the 9/11 Commission's findings, and on interviews, as this was announced at the start, and again at the end, and that it purported to be historically correct. I say we were mesmerized, yes, but we were not really moved.

What did move us was watching the 9/11 memorial services that took place today in New York, at the Pentagon, and in a field near Shanksville, Pennsylvania. Seeing the images of the ceremonies, and hearing the names of the people who lost their lives read out by surviving family members. One image that will forever remain with me is of a little girl, daughter of a New York City policeman, whose wife, the girl's mother, also a NYC policewoman, perished when the twin towers fell.

Those are the images that bring the lumps to our throats, and cause our eyes to become moist. Such images will never, indeed must never, allow us to forget what happened that bright September morning five years ago.

California Landscapes

Costa Mesa

Los Banos

Obituaries

In our younger days we hardly ever looked at the obituary page in our local newspaper. There would have been no need, as our closeknit community's grapevine was exceedingly efficient, and the death of someone we knew would have been known before any notice appeared in the paper.

That remains as true, or even truer, today, with the Internet now linking so many of our friends. But for some years now I have been checking the daily paper's death notices. Partly this is due to an innate curiosity, a shade morbid perhaps, about how our fellow citizens departed this life, what they did during it, and how those they left behind will remember them. Another part of it may be a desire to prepare oneself for the inevitable, while one is still able.

Grim as that may sound, I know that my father, who passed away from a dread disease at the young age of 42, himself prepared his death notice for the newspaper not long before he died. I thought at the time that that showed his profound courage. And I hope that before my time comes, I shall be able to draw on his example.

For now, I am happy to be able just to read the biographies in the Obituary section of our daily paper.

I see that the death notices are much longer today than they used to be. My cynical nature tells me that may have something to do with the sad economic state of the print media and the fall-off in paid newspaper advertising. But the obits are definitely wordier nowadays.

It is sadder to read that someone passed away "after a long (or brave, or heroic) battle (or struggle)" with this or that disease. It is less sad to read that someone died peacefully at a ripe old age surrounded by family members.

We may read that this person, if older, is survived by a loving spouse, children, and perhaps grand- and great-grandchildren. Sometimes all are named, and even the names of their spouses may be included in the notice in parentheses. We may share in the survivors' sense of loss, wish them well, and then proceed to read about how the deceased lived his or her life (place and date of birth, education, achievements in sports, marriage/s, family connections, military service, jobs held or careers embarked upon and succeeded in, hobbies, church activities, volunteer work, support for the arts, places visited in the world.) Words such as "dear", "loyal", "cherished", "adored", "tireless", "generous", "humor", "sorely missed", "honored", "greatest joy", "passion" (for sports or hobbies), these may be expected to appear with regularity.

(I can fully appreciate how very difficult it is for any writer to come up with words to assuage the sense of loss over the death of a loved one, and the previous paragraph is not intended to be disparaging.)

More often than not, a photograph of the deceased accompanies the death notice. Usually they depict the person in the prime of life, and in some cases, even in early youth. This gives the notice a distinct incongruity, as when the photo of an attractive young woman in her early thirties is paired with an obituary for her ninety-year-old self.

The last part of the notice will announce the time and place of a memorial service, generally in a place of worhip or the chapel of a funeral home, and where donations to a charity can be made in memory of the deceased.

Dubrovnik

Some pictures of the old town.